The joys and Tribulations of Childcare

A collection of articles written by mothers about their own experiences of raising children.

Coping with Toddler Tantrums

When babies are born into the world, most parents are immediately anxious for their first smiles, words, and steps. The transition from infant to toddler is a wonderful milestone in your baby’s life. We rarely consider the downsides, such as the screaming, biting, and kicking. This time is referred to as “ the terrible twos” for a reason. While challenging for parents, temper tantrums are often signs of distress for the child as well. It may be helpful to determine the causes behind these blowups. There are a few common reasons why toddlers have frequent tantrums.

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Cry for Attention

In the beginning, babies cry as an immediate need for survival. This is how they express hunger, pain, or fear. These needs change as children get older. Toddlers can often point or verbally indicate the desire for basic needs. Tantrums can be a display for more superficial reasons, such as disappointment. This does not mean parents must give in to every demand for a toy or a piece of chocolate. However, it may be helpful to acknowledge their actions. Sit down with the child and explain your decision. They may not accept it, but at least this shows that you are willing to understand.

Lack of Structure

One of the most controversial issues in parenting is the definition of a spoiled child. Most parents want to give the children every possible advantage. This is a wonderful notion, but there should also be a line. If your child has become accustomed to receiving every, single thing they want, they may resort to tantrums if they are rejected. Instead of resorting to disciplinary measures, it may be helpful to establish new forms of communication. For example, try setting up a substitution method. They may not be allowed a new toy, but they can have an extra hour of playtime as a reward for good behaviour.

Gaps in Communication

In today’s society, it is common for both parents to work. This often leaves a very limited amount of time to connect with small children. This does not mean that working parents are not able to establish communication. Children of working parents have many wonderful advantages. However, it may be necessary to put forth a bit more effort to understand your children. Try setting aside a certain amount of quality time. Not only will your child love the special attention, but it can also teach them to interact with you without sudden outbursts of emotion.

Tantrums are one of the most frustrating elements of parenthood. These outbursts of anger or sadness are difficult to control. However, it is important to consider the communication options of small children. As infants, children learn that crying and screaming usually results in an automatic response. This is their first real line of communication. It is perfectly natural for toddlers to resort to this behavior in order to receive attention. Fortunately for parents, this learned behavior can be altered or adjusted. All it takes is patience, time, and dedication.


Please be aware that the articles on this site are written by mothers who are discussing their own experiences and their own opinions. They do not, and are not meant to, represent professional advice and should be read with that point firmly in mind.

Our children’s welfare is paramount; if you are ever in the slightest doubt about any aspect of caring for a child you are urged to seek qualified, specialist advice from a professional advisor.

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